Frog meadowJon and I have chaotic lives in Manhattan. Like many NYC folks, we work long hours and leisure time comes infrequently and only on the weekends. Fleeing the city via the FDR is a feat in and of itself. Those who live here long enough will admit that the key to surviving in the Big Apple is your (temporary) escape plan.

For many gay New Yorkers, Fire Island is the quintessential summer escape. Beautiful boys, wild parties, picturesque beaches. What’s not to love? t

There’s a lot. Jon and I are turned off by the A-list scene, constant partying, exclusivity and sky high prices.

Don’t get me wrong, the eye candy is incredible.

But it’s not our kind our scene. When we look to recover from the MTA or 90+ degree heat waves, we head north and into the woods. We look for gay retreats and destinations like Frog Meadow.

The Farm

Frog Meadow Farm is a men’s only B&B and massage oasis in Southern Vermont. It caters to guys of all ages, backgrounds, shapes, and sizes. Frog Meadow sits on 63 pristine acres of sloping lawns, an apple orchard, organic gardens and a swimming pond.

For over ten years, Frog Meadow has served as an oasis and retreat for gay men from New England and around the world. A place to recuperate from a stressful week. A place to connect with like-minded gay men in a healthy and accepting environment – no matter who you are.

The best part? It’s only three and a half hours from our apartment in NYC.


Scott and Dave

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Scott and Dave built their dream home in Newfane, Vermont in the late 90s. After a memorable vacation to Hawaii at a secluded beachside rental featuring massages, a private nude beach and a gay-friendly atmosphere – Scott and Dave returned inspired and invigorated. They decided to turn their private residence into a B&B for gay men.

The two opened Frog Meadow Farm to the public in 2007 and haven’t looked back.

Since opening their doors to the public, Scott and Dave have hosted thousands of gay men as young as 21 and as old as 90.


Frog Meadow doubles as a massage oasis for guys who are looking for an even more relaxing experience. Along with transforming their home into a retreat, Dave became a trained massage therapist. When he’s not behind the stove cooking up delicious meals for their guests, you can find him giving massages in his studio built off the main house.

Dave’s philosophy is that the body, mind, and spirit are intricately intertwined components of the whole being. If any one part is out of alignment all three suffer. By assisting in bringing the body into balance, the mind and spirit benefit as well. Dave honors all those who arrive on his table with an individual treatment plan based on input from the client and what he feels with his hands when the work begins.”


The Farm also hosts frequent organized weekend and weeklong retreats throughout the year, including naked yoga, Gay Tantra, massage and touch and a winter wellness weekend.

The retreats are hosted in partnership with local and international wellness experts who partner with Dave and Scott and create a more curated agenda.

We came to Frog Meadow for Armin Heining’s Gay Tantra retreat in early June. You’ll hear all about our experience in an upcoming article.

Check out Frog Meadow’s full calendar of events and retreats here.

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Armin Heining, our Gay Tantra instructor

Our stay

Where do I begin? From the very beginning, we felt at home.

I spoke with Scott a few times before arriving to get the insider’s scoop on our Tantra workshop as well as the B&B. Scott insists on making sure Frog Meadow guests understand the environment, and his careful screens ensure visitors have good expectations of what to expect. It’s not a bathhouse, or the Pines.

Our home for the weekend was a small guest house built next to a small stream a few hundred feet from the house. Home to Dave’s original massage studio, it’s one of the most peaceful places on the property. The guest house has twelve large windows. Every morning we woke to sounds of birds and the stream flowing into the pond at the base of the property. Every night after our workshop, we were asleep as soon as our heads hit our pillows.

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Frog Meadow is clothing optional, and we felt comfortable shedding our clothes early on. There’s a swimming pond at the base of the farm. And a wood-fired hot tub for warming up after a chilly dip.

Every morning, we were greeted with a breakfast of fruit and yogurt and a rotating mix of everything from waffles and bacon and french toast (Vermont maple syrup at the center of the table).

The guest house does not have a bathroom, so we showered in the gym that Scott has built out in the basement. I even lifted some weights one morning before breakfast.

After lunch, we read our summer novels in the hammocks and Adirondack chairs scattered around the property.

Each night at sunset, Jon and I took a naked outdoor shower.

Although we spent most of our stay in the Tantra workshops hosted in the adjacent barn, we did have enough free time to sample most parts of the B&B and property.

Is Frog Meadow right for you?

Short answer? Definitely. There’s a little bit of everything for everyone. Even fast WiFi, if you feel the need to connect. We didn’t.

Long answer – if you prefer the party scene over a relaxing stay in the woods, you might get bored. But sometimes it’s important to reconnect with simple and slower pleasures. And with a diverse mix of gay men, outside of our usual crews.

You’re in good company at Scott and Dave’s B&B.